tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5469780206027563404.post3924264296000665866..comments2024-03-23T12:03:13.156-04:00Comments on Lil Runner: Balance, negativity and complainingN.D.http://www.blogger.com/profile/07718741327199643323noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5469780206027563404.post-16681700986630333672011-09-04T12:51:51.835-04:002011-09-04T12:51:51.835-04:00Just reading about all of your house showings gave...Just reading about all of your house showings gave me flashbacks and sent my HR through the roof! I went seriously nuts while our house was on the market. Looking back at the situation, I think a big part of it was that much of the house selling was out of my control and the only thing I could control is how our home looked during a showing. So I just went nuts with cleaning and it was so stressful. And since you are the one at home, most of the stress is falling on your shoulders. And keeping up with the messes that kids make is nearly impossible.Rebecca DeWirehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02415966459988763348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5469780206027563404.post-16920628975541260052011-09-03T09:52:47.390-04:002011-09-03T09:52:47.390-04:00It was a few years ago that I found myself becomin...It was a few years ago that I found myself becoming a very negative person as well, although when I found the source of the problem, it was actually that I hated my job (I worked in insurance). It was then that I decided that I didn't like the negative person I was becoming and I would do what I need to do to change this. That is when I went back to school to get my master's degree, and I found an entry level job in a library. I took a huge pay cut and had to work full time while getting my graduate degree which took 3 years, but I am so much happier because of it. <br /><br />I realized that I was unhappy because I felt like I had no control over my own life and when I took control, it made all the difference. When I read your list of stressors, it seems to me like you also feel like you can control none of these things and perhaps that is what is causing your discontent. <br /><br />Look at each issue and see what things you can do, be it small or big, to get a better handle on the situation. Maybe it means you will take the house off the market for a while and try again next year. Maybe you are going to go ahead and find part time work, even if it isn't a teaching gig (can you sub?) Maybe you can find a local playgroup to take the kids to, where you can meet up with other moms while your kids get to play with others their age. <br /><br />Just know that what you are struggling with is not uncommon among us mothers/wives/working women. You will get through it and be an even stronger person because of it!Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05873991909276036915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5469780206027563404.post-11275335875731442252011-09-03T07:56:11.937-04:002011-09-03T07:56:11.937-04:00i'd go nuts 75% of the time staying home so 50...i'd go nuts 75% of the time staying home so 50% sounds ok to me! i'd find a babysitter for a set time each week for a couple hours...and either take just one of the kids for something fun or go relax by yourself. andra LOVES preschool (and loved daycare) and it's goof for them so even if nick has an adjustment period don't feel badly. i think it's GREAT he's going to preschool!Clarehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13062114889126850617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5469780206027563404.post-49933963763687604782011-09-02T15:48:00.287-04:002011-09-02T15:48:00.287-04:00First I say this all the time but I wish I could g...First I say this all the time but I wish I could give you a huge hug!! I'm so sorry that you are struggling!<br />My husband and I are AWFUL at communication and it was magnified when we had Em. I can only imagine with 2! I try to stay positive about things but it is hard...especially with 2.5 year-olds. I love her to death but her quest for independence clashes with my need for order!!! Whenever I am feeling like things are caving in on me, I try to take a step back and look at all that I am doing. I try to eliminate things that are just adding more stress or revise them. I am so not a go with the flow girl so structure is craved! My gift to myself this summer was that Em went to daycare for one day a week. It gave me a chunk of time to get things done or just spoil myself with alone time if I needed it. I did long runs and vegged at the beach. I felt guilty at first but also knew it was what I needed.fancy nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11645116527352135569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5469780206027563404.post-60102534068619512892011-09-02T13:52:51.655-04:002011-09-02T13:52:51.655-04:00Something that has made a HUGE (and I can't em...Something that has made a HUGE (and I can't emphasize enough!!!) with parenting is buying this flip charts: http://www.personality-insights.com/Merchant2/merchant.mvc?Session_ID=5eb428587cf08246fab342480b029881&Screen=PROD&Product_Code=FC-1002&Category_Code=FC&Product_Count=1<br /><br />Robert Rohm has several books about personalities. I highly suggest reading one of his books so you have a basis of how different personalities are and purchasing the flip charts. The flip charts help you and your husband know how to discipline each of your kids based on each of your personalities. Since getting these there is much less frustration dealing with Ethan.Charihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09016553715852916194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5469780206027563404.post-63858718113680400612011-09-02T13:45:21.266-04:002011-09-02T13:45:21.266-04:00It sounds like you are overly frustrated because y...It sounds like you are overly frustrated because you haven't found a "good routine" to settle into. Also trying to sell your house is very frustrating. We've had ours on the market for 15 months and I feel a lot of things I have on hold because when we do move it will be to a different town. Try to find something you can get involved with your kids that it won't matter where you live when you move. I just looked into a local MOMS group. Someone else also mentioned MDO which would be good if you want time alone. There is also MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers). I am considering this because each session has a speaker, craft, etc. (although this may not interest you). So check out the mom groups in your area.<br /><br />As for being positive.......it's a habit you have to make a big effort to become. My husband and I try to really positive people, but we have our moments. It's important to read books that help this area, such as "Hung by the Tongue", "How to Win Friends and Influence People". There are also numerous Christian books around wives/moms being positive if you are comfortable with that. Who you associate with also has a huge impact as well. If you have a friend who constantly complains, you will too. I've learned to distance myself from the people who negatively effect me this way. Everyday is a challenge, but if you keep reading books to encourage you and make a good effort you will start seeing changes. I also believe that in turn you will start letting "little things" not bother you as much and let them go.Charihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09016553715852916194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5469780206027563404.post-62445130636789931342011-09-02T12:10:54.607-04:002011-09-02T12:10:54.607-04:00I hope you can find a way to make this time for yo...I hope you can find a way to make this time for yourself every day for your sanity! <br /><br /><a href="http://www.yearoldbirthdaypartyideas.com/1-year-old-birthday-party-ideas" rel="nofollow">1 Year Old Birthday Party Ideas</a>Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623997755872619767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5469780206027563404.post-55037230777018693132011-09-02T11:05:33.828-04:002011-09-02T11:05:33.828-04:00Oh Natalie :( You're a great mommmy.
Can you ...Oh Natalie :( You're a great mommmy.<br /><br />Can you put the kids in a MDO program? our daycare center lets us do drop-in for $4 an hour. Even if you do nothing but sit at home with a cup of coffee, you really need to have some more time on your own.Nullhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13104978798049257495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5469780206027563404.post-476622038155110372011-09-02T10:48:43.843-04:002011-09-02T10:48:43.843-04:00Being a mom is so hard, isn't it? I totally ge...Being a mom is so hard, isn't it? I totally get what you are saying. I work full-time, and I feel like a bad mom for that. I feel badly when I take time away from Sam to go for a run. I feel badly that I don't spend as much time with my husband as I probably should. I feel like there is no way to juggle everything well. And I only have one kiddo :-) So seriously, I think what you are feeling is normal!! I don't have a solution for you, and honestly, I'm not sure there is a perfect solution for what you are feeling, and what lots of us moms feel, but don't feel badly about feeling the way you do. It is normal!! I hope you can find a way to get a bit more balance in your life. And if you figure it out, let me know :-) Hang in there!!Sparkplughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13263276768990740027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5469780206027563404.post-46958995520972634332011-09-02T10:44:55.531-04:002011-09-02T10:44:55.531-04:00I'm sorry that you're having a hard time s...I'm sorry that you're having a hard time staying positive and finding your 'identity' (not sure if that is the right word) lately. I can't say I know how you feel b/c I don't have kids. <br /><br />As much as you want to be home and feel like you SHOULD be home with your kids at this age, you need to make time for yourself also. If that means having a part time job, working out or just locking yourself in the bathroom with a book - I hope you can find a way to make this time for yourself every day for your sanity!Marlenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08230997094889375925noreply@blogger.com